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Personality of People with ME/CFS

People who are ill with ME/CFS tend to be workaholics and overachievers. They think their self-worth is determined by how much they do and what they achieve. That mentality means you neglect your needs such as food, water, sleep and time to relax and leads to burn out and chronic fatigue. This is what happened with me.

ME/CFS sufferers are often keen to get back to work as soon as possible and are not keen to take the time needed to rest and heal. All their lives they have worked hard to prove to themselves that they are good enough. They were brainwashed at school that they are only as good as their grades. They often had workaholic parent or parents who criticised them a lot so they worked hard to get their approval by being overachievers. This behaviour continued into adulthood. They are perfectionists who never feel good enough, despite achieving more that most people.

I know that I am a workaholic who finds it hard to relax. I have to make time in my busy schedule for relaxation including meditation, yoga and walking in nature on a daily basis in order to stay healthy.

Ways to relax include:

  • Sleeping
  • Taking a nap
  • Meditation
  • Reading a book
  • Walking outside in nature
  • Sitting and watching the sky
  • Mindfulness
  • Epsom salt bath
  • Massage
  • Listening to relaxation music
  • Patting a pet
  • Aromatherapy
  • Sitting in the sunshine
  • Focusing on the breath

I only started to heal when I accepted I could no longer work and do as much as I used to do. When I let go of validating myself by societies high standards and just be myself. It is enough to just be.

The information in this post is my opinion and stems from my experiences with ME/CFS. I know many other people with ME/CFS who also had this tendency to push themselves too hard before they got ill.

How to Find Your Life Purpose

I spent a year trying to find my life purpose. Now it is crystal clear to me that everything I have been through during my illness and using nutrition to recover was so that I could teach others how to do the same!

Finding and living your life purpose is good for your health and wellbeing. I feel so much happier now that I know what my life purpose is and have a direction in life to focus my energy on. It feels amazing to be making a positive difference in the world by blogging about my experiences of using nutrition to heal my illness, which have already helped people around the world! Eventually I will work one-on-one with people to help them improve their health as a nutritional therapist.

Here are my 10 steps to finding your life purpose:

1. Write down a list of all the things you enjoy doing!

What do you love doing? What do you do that seems natural to you that you don’t even realise you are doing it? For me it was cooking new recipes in my spare time! To me it was a necessary and enjoyable use of my time! What did you enjoy doing as a child? Did you build lego houses or watch every episode of pet rescue? Did you play with barbie dolls and make them into families? Or paint pictures or make magazines?

2. What did you want to be when you were a child?

When I was a child I wanted to be famous singer. I used to love singing into my karaoke machine and dreamed of being a popstar in a girl group like the Spice Girls! Now I see the connection. As a spiritual teacher it is my job to sing the messages of health and good nutrition to the world! Who knows, maybe one day I will be a public speaker!

3. Look at your name numerology!

Numerology can reveal a lot about your personality. You can find information on the web about what each number means.

To calculate your Earth Path number which represents how other people see you, add up the consonant number equivalents in your full name including your middle name/s.

A=1, B,=2, C=3, D=4, E=5, F=6, G=7, H=8, I=9, J=1, K=2 etc.


2+2+3+5+9+1+5+2+9+9+4+5 = 56, 5+6=11, 1+1=2

Earth Path number 2 – I am seen as someone who is quiet, creative, caring and loving.

To calculate your Soul Path number which represents what your soul desires to do in this lifetime, add up the vowel number equivalents in your full name including your middle name/s.


1+5+5+5+1+6+1+5+6+9+6+1 = 51, 5+1=6

Soul Path 6 – My soul desires to heal others.

To calculate your Life Path number which is the path you are destined to live, add up the sum of your Earth Path number and Soul Path number:

For me: 2+6=8

Life Path 8 – I am destined to work hard and be successful and abundant.

4. Look at your astrology

The three main aspects to look at are your sun sign, rising sign and moon sign. Sun sign and rising sign make up 50% of your overall personality.

Your sun sign which is the position of the sun at the time of your birth is your true personality. I am an Aries so I am a brave, fiery, attention-seeking, charming and a leader at heart.

Your rising sign is how others see you. I am a Gemini so I am seen as an academic who studies a lot and is sociable, quick witted and smart.

Your moon sign which is the position of the moon at the time of your birth represents your emotional life.  Mine is in Libra so I need balance in my emotional life.

5. If you didn’t have to earn money, what would you spend your time doing?

For me it would be cooking, blogging, writing, spiritual development, meditation, yoga, walking in nature, gardening – all the things I love to do!

6. Look at your bank statement

What do you spend you money on? Do you buy music CDs, clothes, books on history, magazines on fashion, health food products, tarot cards or car parts? This gives you a clue as to your interests.

7. Look at your bookshelf

Do you own several books on sewing, cookbooks, art and craft books, anime books, gardening, DIY etc.

8. When you go to the library which sections do you go to?

I go to the spiritual section, the health section, the cookbook section and the business section.

9. Meditate

Take the quiet time to sit down and meditate. Ask the universe “What is my life purpose?” and see what ideas and visions come to mind. Do this regularly and watch for the signs.

10. Listen to your feelings

When you do an activity does it make your feel happy and good afterwards? Or do you feel tense and have a bad feeling in your gut? Trust your instincts. It is the same when you are around people. Does being around them energise you? Or does it drain your energy leaving you feeling depressed?